The sadness

The psychical suffering specific to the state of sadness can manifest itself under the form of disappointment, gloomy, pessimism, sadness, depression, exasperation, etc.
All these are forms of psychical suffering characterized by agitation, restless, indisposition, etc.; they point us out that exactly in those moments, when we feel them in the psyche, there are some wrong judgments specific to the sadness.

Example 1: Traian was disappointed when he realized that one of his relatives is not happy although he doesn’t have any material problems (from his point of view that relative has all that he needs); by the contrary, he suffers because of some quarrels in his family.
1. The state is of disappointment and a slightly sadness.
2. The circumstances refer to a discussion with that relative.
3. The judgments from Traian’s psyche were:
a) “This man has all that he wants and he’s still unpleased. He doesn’t see that his quarrels are because of some trifles.”
b) “Poor him, he suffers a lot… I feel pity for him.“

4. The wrong judgments implied by the facts mentioned above are:
a) “When people have very good material conditions, they should always be happy.”
A short analysis of the psychical mechanisms shows us that the state of happiness, joy and good appears only if the whole system of the human being (psychical, energetic, and emotional mental…) is an harmonious one.
Even if the physical system is in harmony (he has what to drink, to eat, a house…) but at the mental level there are some wrong judgments specific to the pride, to the sadness or anger, it means that the system is not an harmonious one; and this situation is pointed out by the psychical suffering.
All the systems of the human being must be harmonized (not only one of them) at a given moment in order to feel a state of relaxation and of good in general.

So, even if our entire physical body is in harmony, excepting a finger-which has just been cut - the signal of pain, will appear immediately, pointing us out exactly that thing.

That’s why to expect to feel good (to be happy) without an harmonization of all the systems of the human being, is a false expectation which must be thrown away from our psyche.

b) ”People should never suffer.”
People suffer; and to expect the contrary is a false expectation.
As we could see, the suffering is nothing more than a signal which shows us that, in one way or another, we threaten our own existence and harmony as a system.
If we take it as it is and we restore immediately the destroyed harmony, the signal of suffering disappears.

If the signal of suffering (or something similar to it) doesn’t exist anymore, if the parts of a system don’t communicate with each other in order to help in the maintenance of their own existence then the system’ existence is not possible; and once with its disappearance, the harmonious existence of the each element taken separately is compromised, too.
In one way we can say that if the pain (with its subclasses: happiness and wellbeing) didn’t exist, the existence –as we know it-(the existence in the system) wouldn’t be anymore.

Example 2: Medeea got sad because some of her colleagues “with an unorthodox vocabulary” teased her during a lab class, using some vulgar expressions and accusations (totally groundless) about that she would have dealt with the magic and many other things invented by her.
1. The state is of disappointment and sadness.
2. The circumstances are those mentioned above
3. In those moments, Medeea had some judgments like:
a) “What rude persons are these colleagues of mine.”
b) “It’s pity that people with such an educational level use such vulgar expressions.”
c)”What a pity that people don’t show respect to each other.”
d) "People should have the common sense and not to calumniate each other.”

4. The wrong judgments implied by those mentioned above are characterized by specific false expectations:
a) “All the people should always be polite.”
The false expectation is obvious here.

b) “All the people, with a certain level of education, should always use a more elevated language when they talk.”

c) “People should always respect each other and never calumniate.”
We all know that the expectation mentioned above is a false one, especially in the context of the actual society.
Almost all the time we notice people who don’t show any respect to us and who calumniate us; to expect the contrary is obviously a false expectation (impossible to be reached in that moment).

For other exemples clik here.