The sadness - case studies II

Example 6: Emanuela was a little bit depressed because she broke up with her boyfriend, who considered that they don’t fit anymore.
This state of depression manifested under the form of some long and repeated states of sadness, which continue to manifest long after their separation.
1. The state continuously repeated during the period of depression, was that of deep sadness and disappointment. This state continues to repeat itself (situation specific to the obsession) because in her psyche there were some wrong judgments specific to the anger (related especially with the false expectations).

Observation: We can see that the negative psychical automatic processes (the anger, the sadness, the fear, the pride, etc.) usually manifest themselves under the form of the same general mechanism; only the object (the circumstance, the being) changes every time.

When this object also repeats (in a real way or/and through memory), these automatic processes repeat themselves, too.
But every time they increase the intensity of the signal of suffering which indicates their presence in the psyche (the anger turns into hate, the sadness into depression, the pride into conscious ill-will, the fear into obsession, etc.).
The wrong judgments specific to the negative automatic processes repeat themselves continuously and that’s why they have a high probability to be put into practice and thus to destroy the system’s harmony.

The anger which continues to reappear regarding the one and the same being, turns into hate for that being (and the specific psychical suffering increases, too). And if hate is let to manifest, it will lead to extreme violence, sooner or later (sometime even to crime).

The sadness which always reappears regarding the same being, warns us that we have some wrong judgments about that being and that’s time to correct them; but if we don’t take into consideration this internal signal, the sadness-as a signal- becomes more and more intense and sharp, turning into depression (which is a signal of suffering specific to the sadness, but of a higher intensity).
If we still don’t correct the wrong cognitions from our psyche, the psychical suffering increases much more in intensity, becoming despair (which often leads to suicide).

If we continue to let to manifest a fear, regarding a certain object, the signal of psychical suffering (which points out the presence of the wrong judgments specific to the fear) increases in intensity, becoming phobia. And if we don’t take it into consideration not even now, this phobia will paralyze-sooner or later-the different actions which should be made in order to keep and restore our own harmony; the consequences are disastrous (the fear of water turns into phobia of water; when we fall into water, we drawn because we can’t swim, although the Supra-conscious warned us about this thing).

So, a signal of psychic suffering (specific to the anger, sadness, pride, etc.) continues to repeat itself in the psyche (increasing in intensity with its each manifestation) as long as we don’t take it into consideration and don’t correct the wrong judgments pointed by it (the consequence is that every time when we repeat them, regarding the same object, the probability of putting them into practice increases and finally, we’ll perform the destructive actions specific to these wrong judgments).

So, the depression, the hate, the phobia, etc. are forms of manifestation of the obsession; they show us that we are late in adapting ourselves to the changes which took place and thus we are also late in correcting some already formed wrong judgments regarding different objects (states, beings, events, etc.).

In the case of the obsession specific to the depression, the signal of suffering which repeats itself is that specific to the sadness; in the case of the hate, the signal of suffering specific to the anger is repeated; and in the case of the phobia, the signal of suffering specific to the fear is repeated.

Each manifestation of these signals indicates the presence of some specific wrong judgments in our psychical system. With their each manifestation, these judgments become more and more stronger in our subconscious; and that’s why the psychical suffering which points them out, increases in intensity, warning us to take immediately measures to correct them; otherwise, the destruction of our own harmony is imminent.

2. The circumstance which produced the state of depression was the separation of her boyfriend. The circumstances in which the wrong judgments specific to the sadness repeated continuously, were those in which she remembered of different moments spent together and, of course, the moment of their separation (these memories were often caused by a melody on which they used to dance, by some presents received from him, by some places they used to walk, by the meeting with some common friends, etc.).
The state of sadness repeats itself in order to show her that, in those moments, she has some wrong judgments specific to the sadness in her psyche (under the form of some groundless attachments).

In these moments of sadness, in her psyche there were some wrong judgments like:
“What a pity that it ended. Our friendship was meant to last for ever. I don’t understand why he left me. I miss him so much…We should never break apart.”

“How will I manage without him? What I’m going to do now?”
“He was so good to me. I don’t understand how he could leave me…”
“Why did he leave me? Wasn’t I good enough for him?”

Observation 1: In the case of the depression, there are many wrong judgments specific to the pride, the sadness, anger or fear; the dominant ones are those specific to the sadness.

In the example given above, there are some false expectations specific to:
-the pride: “He should always behave nicely to me and never offence me by telling that we are not made for each other.”
-the fear of change: “All the friendships should never end; and thus to be always able to count on some people in everything we do.”
-the sadness: “All the friendships should last forever”. “The relationships between should always remain the same and never change.”

In this case, the false expectations specific to the sadness are generated by the sustaining in the psyche of some groundless attachments.

Everything around us is in a continuous change (the friends, the relations, the circumstances, etc.). To expect the contrary means to bear in our psyche an absurd expectation (impossible to be achieved).

Observation 2: In order to avoid the depression, the cases of sadness must be immediately treated, as soon as they appear.
If the depression appears anyway, we have to identify immediately the manifestations of anger, fear, sadness and pride which are behind it (or other wrong judgments which may appear) and to correct them one by one.

We’ll see that if we correct some of the wrong judgments which took place in that moment, the suffering decreases in intensity.

In the example given above, if we correct immediately the judgments specific to the pride and anger, the signals specific to them disappear; the only signals which remain are those of fear and sadness.
If we correct the fear, the signal of psychic suffering specific to it, disappears, too.
And finally, if we correct the wrong judgments specific to the sadness, the signal specific to it also disappears. And thus the system’s harmony is restored for the moment.
Depression may appear when someone close to us dies.
It manifests like in the case mentioned above; angers (revolts), fears of change and sadness, characterized by groundless attachments, appear (we expect that the people to live forever and never die and thus, our relation with them never to be interrupted).

Observation 3: The tentative of suicide are usually the consequence of some depressions. To deter the suicide, all the wrong judgments pointed out by the state of depression, should be corrected.


Example 7: Florina was quarreled by her boss (she was called “stupid” and in many other ways) because she was wrong with some calculations. Then she felt a state in which the anger and the pride were mixed with the sadness (the predominant) and burst into tears but didn’t reply to her boss anything.
1. The state felt was of anxiety, agitation, stress and it manifested under the forms specific to the anger, pride and sadness.
2. The circumstances were those mentioned above.
3. In those moments, in her psyche there were some wrong judgments like:
a) “Why do you yell at me so much? Don’t you see yourself how you look and what you do…? And why do you call me stupid? - Such a bad woman can be hardly seen.”
b) “I could also tell you something but it’s not my nature.”
c) "What a bad woman. Why doesn’t she respect me like a human being…What did I wrong to her…?”

4. The wrong judgments implied by those mentioned above are specific to:
a) the pride: “Everybody should always speak nicely to me.”
b) the anger: “All the people should always behave favorably with me.”
“Nobody should ever offence me.”

c) the sadness: “All the people should always be good and benevolent with each other.”
In any system there are some disturbing elements which, from different reasons, behave badly with the other elements, trying to destroy their harmony and that of the system (they will pay for this when the other elements of the system, or most of them, will finally turn against them in order to transform or eliminate them from the system).

To consider that these elements don’t exist, to expect all the other elements to perform actions for keeping and strengthening the harmony of a system, is obviously a false expectation.
To expect all the people to be always favorable to us is an obvious false expectation.


See also the next post - the fear