The anger - other case studies

Example 3: Anda was queuing in a bank when someone got in front of her. She didn’t say anything but she got upset in herself because people don’t obey the rules.
1. The state is that of irritation, stress, anger, agitation.
2. The event is that previously described.
3. In that moment Anda let to manifest in the psyche judgments like:
“What rude people: they get in front; they should queue like all the other ones:”
“Why don’t they keep the rules like all the others? If I weren’t be a lady, I would tell them something…”

4. The wrong judgment implied by those mentioned above is:
“All the people should always obey the different social rules.”

We know that rules are not always obeyed by all the people; so, the Anda’s false expectation in that moment was an obvious one. Through the state of psychical suffering specific to the anger, the Supra-conscious pointed her out that she has a wrong judgment (implicitly or explicitly) in that moment.
As soon as it was identified and corrected, it will lead to the disappearance of the state of anger.

Observation: The identification and correction of the wrong judgment identified at 4. must be repeated consciously of many times and in circumstances similar with those from above (when the automatic process of anger will want to manifest by itself) until the new created judgment (the correct one) turns into a psychical automatic process which takes place instead of the wrong one, from now on.
That’s why the Individual Psychical Harmonization requires a long and aware effort; it can’t be made overnight!


Example 4: Being in the kitchen, Gabriela’s mother shouts at her to be more careful and to mix in the pot from the cooker.
1. The state was of irritation, of anger…
2. The circumstances are those mentioned above
3. In those moments, in the Gabriela’s psyche there were judgments like:
a) “She shouts only at me!”
b) “She could have mixed by herself.”
c) “Why does she give me orders? I know how to mix in a pot.”

4. The wrong judgment implied by those mentioned above (which are implicitly sustained if all those mentioned at the paragraph 3. are also sustained in the psyche, being in fact their root) are:

a) “Nobody should ever shout at me.”

We know that from different reasons people sometimes raise their voice. To expect them not to do this is like to expect a cow to fly, etc.; it means to sustain in our psyche a false expectation (thing pointed out by the Supra-conscious through the signal of psychical suffering specific to the state of anger).

b) “I should always do the things I can do by myself.”
But not always all the things we can do, will be made. To expect the contrary is obviously a false expectation.

c) “Nobody should ever give me orders!”
People make what they want with their ‘tongue” and from time to time they give orders to the other ones (from different reasons and in different circumstances).

Observation: At a given moment, in our psyche there are different wrong judgments in the same time: the mistakes which characterize them must be analyzed and identified one by one.

We can be sure that in our psyche there’s no wrong judgment only if the signal of psychical suffering doesn’t manifest anymore, but only that of harmony (a state of peace, tranquility, relaxation and good)
After a number of identified and corrected cases of wrong judgments specific to the anger (or pride or sadness, etc.), it can be also identified the general process which is behind to any manifestation of anger (the general formula of the false expectation) and thus it won’t disturb us anymore.

So we can be sure that we thrown away from the psyche all the wrong automatic processes only if they don’t manifest themselves anymore (they don’t disturb us anymore) in the same circumstances they made before.

Example 5: Corina got angry because her room-mates went to jog and didn’t invite her to join them.
1. The state she felt was an unpleasant one, specific to the anger. Through this state the Supra-conscious warns that a wrong judgment took place in her psyche exactly in that moment.
2. The circumstances in which the signal appeared were those mentioned above.
3. In those moments, in the Corina’s psyche there was a wrong judgment such as:
“My room-mates are some strange persons; they don’t have any common-sense at all…”

4. The wrong judgment is:
“All the people should always have a common-sense (to behave in the way I consider they should behave).”

In this case the false expectation is obvious: not always people behave in the way we want them to behave. To expect the contrary is a proof of ignorance regarding the reality.

We’ll stop here with the examples regarding the wrong judgments specific to the anger. Starting from them and knowing the general formula of manifestation of the false expectations, there can be easily identified the mistakes of judgment in the case of different forms of manifestation of the anger.

Regarding these false expectations, we can see that their general form is the same; the difference regards only the object about which these false expectations were created and only the specific reason (the specific circumstances) brought as an argument for the anger’s manifestations.

These specific circumstances are infinitely various (man can get angry from everything); but they are not essential for the apparition of the state of anger; they are only some wrong judgments about these circumstances, some false expectations sustained in us regarding the nature of these objects : we expect to happen things which are impossible to happen;

I mean ,we expect all the people to behave in the way we want, all the things to go from themselves (without any resistances), the state of some objects to remain the same for ever, etc.