The pride - case studies I

Example 1. Gabi felt offended when one of her colleagues from the university refused to help her at an exam (to whisper her).
1. In those moments Gabi felt a state of frustration, agitation and offence, state which was a specific manifestation of the psychic suffering sent by the Supra-conscious in order to warn the conscious that a wrong judgment manifests in the psyche.
2. The event which caused the wrong judgment is that mentioned above.
3. Then, in the Gabriela’s psyche there were some wrong judgments like:
-“What a selfish colleague!”
-“It doesn’t matter. One day you’ll ask me to...”

4. The wrong judgment implied by those mentioned above and presented in the Gabriela’s psyche in those moments, can be considered some false expectations.
“People should always help me.”
“All the people should always praise me (to do what I want).”
Obviously, not all the people want to help us and not all of them can help us, even if they want to (from different reasons). So, it’s clear that not all the people want to praise us.
To expect the contrary means to expect the impossible to happen.

Knowing all these, we must be aware that the correct judgment consists in the fact that some people help us, while the other ones won’t; and depending on their attitude, we have to guide our actions in order to reach a great harmony of our own system and of the macro-systems which we belong to.

If the other ones interrupt the communication by letting to manifest in themselves attitudes of superiority, arrogance, despise and malevolence, it’s necessary to act for the restoration of this communication, by adopting an attitude of benevolence, openness and unconditioned love.

To answer at an attitude of arrogance with arrogance, to that of despise with despise, to that of malevolence with malevolence, etc., means to disturb the system’s harmony; and that’s why we’re immediately warned by specific signals of psychical suffering.


Example 2: Alex was on the corridor of a train and opened the door a little because it was too hot.
Then, a man of about 45 told him with a tone of superiority mixed with a kind of violence: "You’re too hot, boy?”
Alex felt offended by the attitude and the tone of the other one; he hardly controlled himself not to answer to him using the same tone.
1. The state felt was that of agitation, anxiety, offence...
2. The circumstances are those mentioned above.
3. The Alex’s thoughts were:
“Look at him! Why can’t he speak nicely? It wasn’t necessary to shout at me; anyway I could heard him even if he hadn’t shouted at me.”

4. The false expectation implied by the judgments mentioned above and whose presence was promptly pointed out by the Subconscious, are:
“People should always speak nicely.”
“Nobody should ever shout at me.”
These false expectations consist in the fact that we can’t control people’s voice and that’s why some of them speak nicely while the other ones shout; to expect all the people to speak nicely it’s an impossible thing.

Example 3: Gabriel was driving regulamentary when a driver behind of him signalized that he wanted to pass in front of Gabriel. When he finally did it, he made an obscene gesture with his finger.
Gabriel felt offended by the driver’s gesture and kept all his angry in himself.
1. The state was that of offence, anxiety, restless.
2. The circumstances were those mentioned above.
3. In those moments Gabriel was thinking of something like:
“What a rude man!”
“Look at that stupid man; probably he wants some kicks in his ass.”

4. The wrong judgment could take place because in the Gabriel’s psyche there were implicitly present (although he wasn’t aware of that) some false expectations like:
“All the people should always behave in a civilized way.”
“All the people should always respect me.”
Here we deal with some false expectations specific to the radicalization and diminution of the perceptive field.

Example 4: A teacher of about 55 years old invited a young man, a relative of her, at lunch. He was a vegetarian and she continuously tried to make him to eat meat. The young man kept saying that he didn’t want meat but she insisted over and over again.
Then he told her:
“Haven‘t you get bored to keep asking me about meat?
“No, because you should eat meat.”
“Then think about that maybe I got bored to ask me to eat meat as long as I’ve been telling you for 10 times up to now that I don’t want”, replied the young man, stressing the word “maybe I got bored”.
The lady felt offended and told him:
“Listen, you should respect me…”
“I respect you if you respect me” replied the man again, offending the lady’ pride more. Now she felt offended and more upset.
1. The state felt by the lady was one of agitation, anxiety, stress, offence, anger, a state of specific psychic suffering pointed out by the presence of some wrong judgments in her psyche.
2. The circumstances were those previously mentioned.
3. In those moments in the lady’s psyche there were some wrong judgments like:
“How dare he talk to me like that? What a rude boy. I want only what’s the best for him and look how he speaks to me. He shows no respect. The chit! But who does he think he is to talk to me like that.” etc.
4. The false expectations implied by the judgments mentioned above are:
“All the people (young or old) should always respect and never contradict me!”
“Due to my social position (I am old, I am a teacher) I should always be respected by the other ones.”
In this case the false expectations are obvious. We all know that not everybody shows respect for us (from different reasons) and that there are many people who contradict us in different circumstances. To expect the contrary is an obvious false expectation.
So we have to notice who are those people who respect us and who are those who don’t and to treat them all with an attitude of benevolence and unconditioned love in order to strengthen the system’s harmony which we belong to.
The procedure is that already mentioned:

Listen! - Understand! - Help!
If you don’t want to help the other one showing an attitude of openness and benevolence to him, but by the contrary you close any way of communication with him, through attitudes of ill-will and pride, then you jeopardize the system’s harmony and existence.
This situation is promptly pointed out by the Supra-conscious which sends signals of psychical suffering (offence, agitation, anger, etc.)