Example 3: Viorel was disappointed and got sad because his trumpet professor forbade him to play in another ways then those thought by him. Viorel was disappointed because he didn’t have the liberty to have opinions, to have his own style of playing.
1. The state felt was of disappointment and a slightly sadness.
2. The circumstances are those mentioned above.
3. In those moments, in the Viorel’s psyche there were some judgments like:
“The teacher should be more flexible in his way of teaching. He should encourage the students’ initiatives.”
“He should listen to my opinions because I have a long experience as a musician.”
4. The wrong judgments implied by those mentioned above have the form of some false expectations like:
- “All the teachers should always teach in the way I like.”
Of course, not all the teachers (from different reasons) teach in the way we would like them to do. To expect the contrary is a false expectation.
Being aware of this, when we meet such teachers, we accept them as they are. But first we try (if it’s possible, if it’s advisable) to make them some suggestions to change their way of teaching.
If they don’t do it, that’s it. But if their way of teaching influences negatively the quality of the courses, proper measures must be taken immediately (to inform the superior authority, to try to change their way of teaching) so that the system’s elements to be well prepared for their specific future missions from the system. If this thing is not achieved, the system will be affected and we, too as parts of it.
- “My opinions should always be considered by the others.”
In this case the false expectation is obvious: some people take our opinions into consideration while other ones don’t (from different reasons dependent or independent of them); to expect the contrary means to expect impossible things to happen.
But, no matter of the other’s people attitude towards us, if we want to increase our harmony, it’s advisable to help them unconditionally in order to harmonize themselves at a superior level, too (listen - understand - help).
It’s necessary to have some correct judgments in our psyche like the ideals specific to the existential-philosophic mental.
Example 4: Talking to a friend who was periodically beaten by her husband, Timea advised her to leave him. She kept going with this advice considering that in this way she could help her friend. But her friend didn’t listen to her (from different reasons) and remained with her husband; worse than that, she began to avoid Timea.
When Timea found out that her friend remained together with her husband and that she was still beaten, she felt sorry for her, for the fact that there are people who accept to continue such relation impossible to be accepted by her.
She got also sad because she wanted to give her a hand of help and her gesture wasn’t appreciated at its real value
1. The state was of disappointment and sadness.
2. This state appeared when she got the news mentioned above.
3. In those moments Timea had judgments like:
a) “I don’t understand how she can accept such a situation. If I were in her place, I would have leaved him immediately. Poor of her, she can’t see that such a relation makes her a lot of harm instead of good.”
“I want to help her but she doesn’t take into consideration my advice and don’t appreciate their value.”
4. The false expectations implied by the judgments mentioned above are:
- “All the people should always have the same values like me; they should always think like me...”
People think differently and have different values (due to different social, educational, familial circumstances); to expect the contrary is an absurd expectation.
- “All the people should always see very clear the things (the beings) that harm us and get rid of them.”
Due to the social circumstances, in the people’s psyche exist different mental automatic processes which make them to choose the suffering and not to be different than the rest of the “herd”; and thus they destroy their harmony.
So, a lot of societies, because of their pride and anger or because of their desire of revenge, made great destructions in the harmony of the other societies; this thing will turn against them later, almost destroying them.
Knowing that most of the people function on “automatic pilot” and with their conscious “sleepy”, some negative psychical automatic processes, copied from the reality, manifest in their psyche; to expect from them to see very Cleary the distinction between who want them good (an harmonious system integrated in the System of the Systems) and who don’t.
So, we can see that the society hasn’t managed to be aware that the psychical sufferings specific to the sadness, anger, pride, etc. point out the existence of some wrong psychical attitudes which must be corrected if we want to maintain its harmony and existence.
By the contrary, we see that such attitudes specific to the pride, sadness, anger, etc. are widely spread in the actual societies.
And they can disappear from the psyche of an individual who belongs to these kind of societies, only through The Individual Psychical Harmonization for a long period of time.
- “All the people should always appreciate and thank me when I try to help them.”
Observation: In a given circumstance, we’ see that different wrong judgments specific to the anger, pride, sadness, etc. may appear.
Then we have a quite big state of confusion: our emotions are contradictory and of different types; on one hand we get sad for somebody else’s situation and on the other hand because he doesn’t do anything to change it; sometimes we are excessively proud and feel offended when the other one doesn’t take into consideration our advice.
But this thing doesn’t have to worry us because each type of wrong judgment is pointed out by a specific state of psychical suffering. Knowing this, we identify and analyze one by one, all the wrong judgments which may appear at a given moment; we correct them starting with the most obvious and stronger one.
Pure cases don’t exist; circumstances able to determine the apparition of only some types of wrong judgments in the psyche also don’t exist.
When one of them manifests (for e.g. the anger), the other ones are always present in a big or small extent, sooner or later (the fear, the pride, the sadness, etc.) from one level or another of the mental (the anger can be accompanied by dogmatic doctrines and non-ideals specific to the existential-philosophic mental, the attitudes of revolt are related by the impossibility of the knowledge specific to the intuitive mental, etc.).
That’s why, at a given moment we have to be careful at all the wrong judgments of the different levels, and we have to start to correct them one by one until the signal of the psychical suffering disappears; in this way it points us out that ,for the moment, we don’t have any wrong judgment in our psyche.
When this signal reappears, the process specific to the Psychical Harmonization, must be restarted immediately.
After a certain period of manifestation of this Psychical Harmonization Process, most of the wrong judgments will be eliminated from the psyche; but we must remain in alert, even after that, because other wrong judgments can show up in the psyche anytime (judgments we haven’t had before).
This situation is promptly pointed out by the Supra-conscious, through specific signals of psychical suffering.
We have to pay attention to receive these signals and thus to begin immediately their identification and correction using the techniques of the Psychical Harmonization already assimilated in us.
Example 5: When Alex left home, he was sad and disappointed because he considered that his parents didn’t understand him and not even try to. They didn’t understand what he wanted to do and thus, they didn’t give him any support for his actions.
1. The state was that of sadness.
2. The moment is that of moving in another town after a discussion with his parents, in which Alex tried, with no success, to expose his intentions to them (he was forbidden by his pride and anger and by those of his parents).
3. In those moments, in his psyche there were some wrong judgments like:
“Not even my closest people (my parents) can understand me (although they should do this); so how to expect from the others to understand me?”
4. The wrong judgments implied by those mentioned above are:
a) “At least my parents (some people) should understand and support me in all that I do.”
From different reasons, it’s obvious that not even our parents can always understand what we do and they can’t (or/and want) always give us any support in what we do. To expect the contrary is a false expectation.
Not even us (from different reasons dependent or independent of us) can always understand and support the other ones who are close to our soul. So, can we pretend from the others to make something proved to be impossible even for us?
b) “All the people should always act for the maintenance and strengthen the harmony of their own systems and of the surrounding ones.”
People should act in the way mentioned above if they want to maintain and strengthen their harmony; and really do it, except some people who don’t know exactly what they have to do in order to reach their objective; and thus they continue to make mistakes from time to time or they obtain the contrary: the disharmony.
Because of different reasons (dependent or independent of them), people can’t always act (or don’t want to act) for their superior harmonization; to expect the contrary is an impossible expectation.
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